Here is an exercise for any relationship where you may have lost that connection. Use it to remember why you are together and re-establish that lost link.

I am asking for 30 minutes every night for you two to have an appointment for relationship enhancement (for same sex couples please omit man/woman and replace with names)

Please make sure you are clean, teeth brushed, smell nice, etc.

Rules are as follows and applies to both of you.

• The time must be the same every night as much as possible.
• Shortly after you read this you must go over it together and see if you are both willing. You must both agree to give this time to each other and make a schedule for the following 9 nights and promise each other that it will be a priority to meet at the scheduled times. If one of you forgets, is late, or reschedules this will make the other person feel as though they have been abandoned and rejected. I cannot stress enough that if either of you feel that you cannot for seven days remember this appointment and be present, DO NOT AGREE TO DO THIS as this may damage your relationship further. This is a commitment not to be made lightly!
• Both of you must meet in a designated area at the designated time. You may not remind each other or drop hints of your appointment with each other. (Please choose a place where you will not be interrupted and feel safe) All phones MUST be OFF mobiles and landlines. You will need to decide prior who will be responsible for what phones. Decide in advance about lighting conducive to your time together and who will be responsible for lighting or how it will be shared. If you can set an alarm for when the 30 minutes is up but put the clock in another room or wrap it in a towel as I don’t want clock watching and it will muffle alarm as to not startle. The point is to lose track of time while together
• No talking is allowed except for when it is specified for the exercise for the night.
• No talking about sex for the duration- don’t mention it- don’t ask for it – don’t allude to it-. If you want to have sex with the other person you are not allowed to ask -only to convince them with touch.
• Sex is not allowed during dedicated 30 minutes if you choose to have sex after is your choice. It neither required or encouraged during this time but may happen naturally after your appointment or may not.

First night –

No talking allowed – you may at some point or many times find yourself laughing or giggling and this is natural but it is important to stay silent speech-wise for the full 30 minutes

Face one another, sitting or standing but not touching – fully clothed (make sure you are comfortable as I want you to remain this way for the 30 minutes).

Relax in this position long enough to dispel any negative emotions and energy. Breathe gently and regularly

Gaze into each other’s eyes and place your right hand on your partner’s heart. As you inhale, visualize inhaling your partner’s heart energy. As you exhale, breathe your heart energy into your partner. If you would like you can give this energy a colour and imagine it as a cloud of this colour if it will help.

During this time you may want to imagine this energy cleansing any negative emotions that you may have concerning your relationship and each time you breathe you are erasing the memory or hurts or issues from your heart. You are forgiving with every breath and releasing your partner from any guilt or responsibility. So at the end of this session you will be able to start with a clean slate of emotions.

Do this as long as you can until your arms feel pleasantly tired – don’t push it past the point, as you need to make this about peace and comfort.

Then let your arms fall to your side comfortably but continue visualizing and breathing.

Gaze into each other’s eyes for as much as you can for the 30 minutes. You will often have to pull back and look at their face generally and then re-focus.

There are no other rules many things may happen be open to what does and enjoy it.

Second night –

I want you to talk -fully clothed and relaxed- about when you first met – what you found attractive in each other. About things early in the relationship maybe when you first realized that you loved the other person and what made you fall in love with them. This is a positive reminiscing session and look into each other’s eyes as much as possible. Only positive things may be said. Take this opportunity to tell your partner wonderful things about themselves things you may have noticed when you first meet them but didn’t feel ready to say at the time. You may also talk about your favorite memory with that person day, night, or moment.

Third night-

Fully clothed – talking allowed but not about sex – cuddle, kiss, touch each other over your clothes. Nuzzle or anything else you can think of.

It is important to be slow and explore each other like when you were teenagers and treasure every kiss. Kiss each other’s face and hair. Stroke lips and eyes with fingertips. Slowly and TAKE YOUR TIME.

Fourth night-

Clothes off

Woman’s night-

The woman may only speak in a whisper this appointment; the man may not speak at all. She must give exact instructions on how she would like to be stroked or caressed. Slow or fast, whole hands or fingertips, with a light scarf or anyway imagined. Caresses must be in this order and on no other parts of the body, though when the order is finished she may ask man to go back to a particular favorite spot. If for any reason one does not appeal (say you hate people to touch your ears) just skip that part but unless it is a turn off, please try to experiment with ways of touch which may feel nice. Constant feedback is required, “that’s perfect, a little faster, slower, softer, etc. Never say, “don’t…” or “stop…” just encourage a different touch. Best if woman’s eyes are closed as much as possible so she can immerse in the touch. When the woman feels she has had enough touching both are encouraged to cuddle closely till time is finished. If at anytime the person’s arms or hands become tired just lightly cuddle till you can resume.

Face

Hair

Ears

Neck

Shoulders

Hands

Back

Belly

Legs

Knees

Backs of knees

Feet

Fifth night-

Clothes off

Man’s night

The man may only speak in a whisper this appointment; the woman may not speak at all. He must give exact instructions on how he would like to be stroked or caressed. Slow or fast, whole hands or fingertips, with a light scarf or anyway imagined. Caresses must be in this order and on no other parts of the body, though when the order is finished he may ask woman to go back to a particular favorite spot. If for any reason one does not appeal (say you hate people to touch your ears) just skip that part but unless it is a turn off, please try to experiment with ways of touch which may feel nice. Constant feedback is required, “that’s perfect, a little faster, slower, softer, etc. Never say, “don’t…” or “stop…” just encourage a different touch. Best if man’s eyes are closed as much as possible so he can immerse in the touch. When the man feels he has had enough touching both are encouraged to cuddle closely till time is finished. If at anytime the person’s arms or hands become tired just lightly cuddle till you can resume

Face

Hair

Ears

Neck

Shoulders

Hands

Back

Belly

Legs

Knees

Backs of knees

Feet

Sixth night-

Clothes off

Woman’s night

The woman is only allowed to say things like- cool, warm, warmer, really warm, a little hot, hotter, really hot, really really hot, boiling hot, etc.

The man is encouraged to touch any area of the body with any part of his body and ask any questions or make comments. No intercourse is allowed during the session. This exercise may lead to an orgasm but is not it’s intent. The intent is to experiment with how touch works and all the different types of touch you can try. If one kind of touch gets a cool reply just try something, somehow, or somewhere else. It may be helpful to remember prior nights and how touch was conducted then. Please be aware of different parts of the body and try to spend time on many different areas

Seventh night-

Clothes off

Man’s night

The man is only allowed to say things like- cool, warm, warmer, really warm, a little hot, hotter, really hot, really really hot, boiling hot, etc.

The woman is encouraged to touch any area of the body with any part of her body and ask any questions or make comments. No intercourse is allowed during the session. This exercise may lead to an orgasm but is not it’s intent. The intent is to experiment with how touch works and all the different types of touch you can try. If one kind of touch gets a cool reply just try something, somehow, or somewhere else. It may be helpful to remember prior nights and how touch was conducted then. Please be aware of different parts of the body and try to spend time on many different areas

Eighth night-

Lay naked and cuddle with each other and just talk about what you think about how you enjoyed previous nights. If you did not enjoy discuss why.

Ninth night-

Clothes off

Both no talking – using oils massage and touch each other simultaneously. Sliding all over each other but no intercourse

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